Greetings Dear Reader!
Sometimes we have to make decisions based on the information presented to us or how we "feel". This is all well and dandy as long as we remember that we have the right to change our mind.
While I am definitely one for being decisive and taking action, I understand that it is okay to change our minds. If you are the kind of person who feels "guilty", "fickle", or "immature" for changing your mind... stop!
Don't worry about what anyone else thinks about you changing your mind unless it impacts them in some way. If your decision is a personal one that does not involve others, don't worry about changing your mind!
You are the only one who has to live with your decisions. People may observe what is going on in your life, but unless they are obsessed with you, they will not care for long. So go ahead, be true to yourself. Make your decisions, but as new information becomes available, or if you simply have a change of heart, don't worry about changing your mind.
You are FREE to decide to go with a different decision anytime you choose!
Best wishes for you to worry less,
Kaja Green-Tovar
Sunday, May 25, 2014
Saturday, May 24, 2014
Motivation To NOT Worry In A Song!
Greetings Dear Reader!
Thanks for stopping by. Below is a link to video for motivation to not worry. The motivation is in the form of a song.
I own no rights to the song or video. I'm simply providing a link to it. Watch it. It's cool!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d-diB65scQU
Best wishes for our (yours and mine) optimal health and wellness,
Kaja Green-Tovar :-)
Thanks for stopping by. Below is a link to video for motivation to not worry. The motivation is in the form of a song.
I own no rights to the song or video. I'm simply providing a link to it. Watch it. It's cool!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d-diB65scQU
Best wishes for our (yours and mine) optimal health and wellness,
Kaja Green-Tovar :-)
Thursday, May 22, 2014
Instead Of Worrying About Your Weight, Do This!
Greetings Dear Reader!
Many of us worry about our weight. While being concerned about it can be helpful, worrying can be harmful. When we are concerned about our weight, we recognize the need for improvement or maintenance. When we are worried about our weight, we are likely to feel forlorn and upset about it.
Instead of worrying, recognize your concern and make efforts to do something about changing, improving, or maintaining your weight. If how you look in, or out, of your clothes concerns you, start taking action to address the issues you have.
First, be thankful for your body and its functioning. After all, it is the instrument or vehicle that allows you to experience life on earth. Basically, be grateful for your body vehicle. You can work on it so it looks and functions better by CHOOSING to nourish it with healthy foods, adequate sleep, and physical activity.
Second, do what you can with the resources you have available to incorporate more physical activity into your life. If you can walk, walk. If you can jog, jog. If you can swim, swim. These things can be done at a gym or the park. Instead of a night out at the movies, go bowling or skating.
Third, if you watch television, be active through commercials. Same for online videos. If you're watching a video and it's interrupted with a commercial or advertisement, get up and move! You can do this! :)
As always, feel free to leave a comment.
For A to Z motivational tips, get the book (available in print and on kindle):
Best wishes for our (yours and mine) optimal health and wellness,
Kaja Green-Tovar
Many of us worry about our weight. While being concerned about it can be helpful, worrying can be harmful. When we are concerned about our weight, we recognize the need for improvement or maintenance. When we are worried about our weight, we are likely to feel forlorn and upset about it.
Instead of worrying, recognize your concern and make efforts to do something about changing, improving, or maintaining your weight. If how you look in, or out, of your clothes concerns you, start taking action to address the issues you have.
First, be thankful for your body and its functioning. After all, it is the instrument or vehicle that allows you to experience life on earth. Basically, be grateful for your body vehicle. You can work on it so it looks and functions better by CHOOSING to nourish it with healthy foods, adequate sleep, and physical activity.
Second, do what you can with the resources you have available to incorporate more physical activity into your life. If you can walk, walk. If you can jog, jog. If you can swim, swim. These things can be done at a gym or the park. Instead of a night out at the movies, go bowling or skating.
Third, if you watch television, be active through commercials. Same for online videos. If you're watching a video and it's interrupted with a commercial or advertisement, get up and move! You can do this! :)
As always, feel free to leave a comment.
For A to Z motivational tips, get the book (available in print and on kindle):
Best wishes for our (yours and mine) optimal health and wellness,
Kaja Green-Tovar
Monday, May 19, 2014
Replace Thoughts Of Worry
Greetings Dear Reader!
Today's tip to help you diminish or do away with worrying is to:
Replace thoughts of worry with an activity or a different thought.
The above tip is simple and effective. Replacing thoughts of worry does not mean you stop caring. It just means that you take a time-out and get some mental rest from the situation you are fretting about.
Here's an example:
Let's say you worry because you're late for work. Replace your thoughts of worrying about being late with something like the following:
Replacement Thought #1: "I am late, but I when I get to work I will be very productive."
Replacement Thought #2: "I am late for my dinner date, but I will drive safely and arrive in good spirits!"
Feel free to leave a replacement thought in the comments section.
Remember: Helpful tips for overcoming worrying will be provided here for the remainder of May 2014!
Best wishes for our (yours and mine) optimal health and wellness!
Kaja Green-Tovar
Today's tip to help you diminish or do away with worrying is to:
Replace thoughts of worry with an activity or a different thought.
The above tip is simple and effective. Replacing thoughts of worry does not mean you stop caring. It just means that you take a time-out and get some mental rest from the situation you are fretting about.
Here's an example:
Let's say you worry because you're late for work. Replace your thoughts of worrying about being late with something like the following:
Replacement Thought #1: "I am late, but I when I get to work I will be very productive."
Replacement Thought #2: "I am late for my dinner date, but I will drive safely and arrive in good spirits!"
Feel free to leave a replacement thought in the comments section.
Remember: Helpful tips for overcoming worrying will be provided here for the remainder of May 2014!
Best wishes for our (yours and mine) optimal health and wellness!
Kaja Green-Tovar
Sunday, May 18, 2014
Is Someone Upset With You? Try These Four Tips Instead Of Worrying!
Greetings Dear Reader,
Remember: from May 16-31, 2014, I am posting suggestions and tips for diminishing or doing away with worrying.
For today, let's discuss how to stop worrying about someone being upset with you. First of all, we must acknowledge that regardless of why someone is upset with us, the only thing we can truly control is OUR RESPONSE to the other person or situation.
**Be like the ducks! Let the water roll off our backs!
Instead of worrying about someone being upset with you, try the following:
1) Respect the other person's difference of opinion or point of view. If the disagreement gets a bit heated, be dignified and refrain from name-calling or insults. As long as you control how you express yourself, you will not have to worry about adding more reasons for anyone to be upset with you.
2) Accept that YOU have a choice to engage or disengage in communicating. You can choose to disengage if someone is irate or making nasty remarks . You can decide to distance yourself physically to stay safe or prevent a situation from escalating. Whether you engage or disengage, the person might still be upset. Spend time focusing on how to best move forward instead of worrying.
3) If someone is upset with you, it's okay to talk about the situation with someone you trust to help you cope or calm down. Stick to the facts of the situation without trying to get anyone to take your side. If possible, don't even include the person's name when talking about the situation. This way you get to air your concerns instead of worrying about them!
4) Listen to the person who is upset with you without trying to change their mind or convince them that they are wrong. Sometimes allowing another person to talk until they run out of things to say, can help them release pent up frustrations. Listening to the person who is upset helps you because no matter the outcome, you don't have to worry about whether you gave listening a try. Of course, if they are being disrespectful or threatening, just see number two above.
I hope the above tips help you to not worry so much when someone gets upset with you. Feel free to leave a comment and share tips on how to deal with someone who is upset with you.
Best of the best wishes for our (yours and mine) optimal health and wellness! -Kaja Green-Tovar
Remember: from May 16-31, 2014, I am posting suggestions and tips for diminishing or doing away with worrying.
For today, let's discuss how to stop worrying about someone being upset with you. First of all, we must acknowledge that regardless of why someone is upset with us, the only thing we can truly control is OUR RESPONSE to the other person or situation.
Instead of worrying about someone being upset with you, try the following:
1) Respect the other person's difference of opinion or point of view. If the disagreement gets a bit heated, be dignified and refrain from name-calling or insults. As long as you control how you express yourself, you will not have to worry about adding more reasons for anyone to be upset with you.
2) Accept that YOU have a choice to engage or disengage in communicating. You can choose to disengage if someone is irate or making nasty remarks . You can decide to distance yourself physically to stay safe or prevent a situation from escalating. Whether you engage or disengage, the person might still be upset. Spend time focusing on how to best move forward instead of worrying.
3) If someone is upset with you, it's okay to talk about the situation with someone you trust to help you cope or calm down. Stick to the facts of the situation without trying to get anyone to take your side. If possible, don't even include the person's name when talking about the situation. This way you get to air your concerns instead of worrying about them!
4) Listen to the person who is upset with you without trying to change their mind or convince them that they are wrong. Sometimes allowing another person to talk until they run out of things to say, can help them release pent up frustrations. Listening to the person who is upset helps you because no matter the outcome, you don't have to worry about whether you gave listening a try. Of course, if they are being disrespectful or threatening, just see number two above.
I hope the above tips help you to not worry so much when someone gets upset with you. Feel free to leave a comment and share tips on how to deal with someone who is upset with you.
Best of the best wishes for our (yours and mine) optimal health and wellness! -Kaja Green-Tovar
Saturday, May 17, 2014
Experiencing Insomnia? Instead of Worrying About It, Try This!
Greetings Dear Reader!
Many of us are fortunate to get adequate rest to function optimally. However, if you or someone you know frequently experience insomnia, the following might help you to do away with it, or at least deal with it:
First of all, know that while insomnia may feel extremely uncomfortable, it is highly unlikely to cause your sudden death! That's important and should provide a bit of relief!
Second, struggling with insomnia only serves to increase how much you worry, which will further keep you from falling asleep.
One way, though not the only way, to deal with insomnia is to do something with the hours or moments that you can't fall asleep. Watch a movie in a different language, color in a coloring book, or draw a picture. Basically, take advantage of being awake! Whatever you do, do it in a relaxed manner. No struggling. Relax.
Another way to deal with insomnia is to write down whatever is on your mind to free your mind from having to struggle with trying to remember what you need or want to accomplish for the following day.
I hope the above tips are helpful.
If you have a tip you would like to share, feel free to leave a comment. Your thoughts are most welcome!
Best wishes for our (yours and mine) optimal health and wellness!
Kaja Green-Tovar
Many of us are fortunate to get adequate rest to function optimally. However, if you or someone you know frequently experience insomnia, the following might help you to do away with it, or at least deal with it:
First of all, know that while insomnia may feel extremely uncomfortable, it is highly unlikely to cause your sudden death! That's important and should provide a bit of relief!
Second, struggling with insomnia only serves to increase how much you worry, which will further keep you from falling asleep.
One way, though not the only way, to deal with insomnia is to do something with the hours or moments that you can't fall asleep. Watch a movie in a different language, color in a coloring book, or draw a picture. Basically, take advantage of being awake! Whatever you do, do it in a relaxed manner. No struggling. Relax.
Another way to deal with insomnia is to write down whatever is on your mind to free your mind from having to struggle with trying to remember what you need or want to accomplish for the following day.
I hope the above tips are helpful.
If you have a tip you would like to share, feel free to leave a comment. Your thoughts are most welcome!
Best wishes for our (yours and mine) optimal health and wellness!
Kaja Green-Tovar
Friday, May 16, 2014
The Thing About Any Problem Is This...
Greetings!
One of the important things about any problem is this:
Worrying about it and over-analyzing the problem is ineffective. To diminish or do away with a problem, one must determine the best solution, and then take action to implement it.
Over the Mother's Day weekend I was very worried about driving on the Texas highways because of my vehicular accident last month in April. Well,
no matter how awful traffic became it was part of the route I needed to take in order to reach my destination. Worrying about it was not going to do any favors for my health!
The best solution I came up with was for me to drive on the access roads if or when traffic became to much for me to bear. It took me longer than the average driver to arrive at my destination but I was much less worried while I drove. I thought of a solution and implemented it.
Remember in the 2nd paragraph from the top, I stated we can diminish or do away with a problem. Even if your problems are not completely gone away, diminishing the amount, or heaviness, of your worries about them will be good for your health.
Worried about something?
Brainstorm solutions.
Then implement the best one for your situation.
I hope this post helps you or someone you know.
For the remainder of this month, May 2014, I will post tips and suggestions about dealing with thoughts of worry.
Best wishes for our (yours and mine) optimal health and wellness,
Kaja Green-Tovar
One of the important things about any problem is this:
Worrying about it and over-analyzing the problem is ineffective. To diminish or do away with a problem, one must determine the best solution, and then take action to implement it.
Over the Mother's Day weekend I was very worried about driving on the Texas highways because of my vehicular accident last month in April. Well,
no matter how awful traffic became it was part of the route I needed to take in order to reach my destination. Worrying about it was not going to do any favors for my health!
The best solution I came up with was for me to drive on the access roads if or when traffic became to much for me to bear. It took me longer than the average driver to arrive at my destination but I was much less worried while I drove. I thought of a solution and implemented it.
Remember in the 2nd paragraph from the top, I stated we can diminish or do away with a problem. Even if your problems are not completely gone away, diminishing the amount, or heaviness, of your worries about them will be good for your health.
Worried about something?
Brainstorm solutions.
Then implement the best one for your situation.
I hope this post helps you or someone you know.
For the remainder of this month, May 2014, I will post tips and suggestions about dealing with thoughts of worry.
Best wishes for our (yours and mine) optimal health and wellness,
Kaja Green-Tovar
Thursday, May 15, 2014
How I Won An Argument!
Greetings Dear Reader!
Recently I won a disagreement by "giving in". Okay wait! Before you click and go away, understand that I really did win by giving in.
You see, an associate wanted the same thing I wanted but we argued over how to get the end result. I was annoyed because their way was going to take longer than necessary. However, I realized this individual was NOT willing to cave just as I wasn't. Then I took a nice walk. While I was walking, I came to the realization, thankfully sooner rather than later, that "someone" would have to give in to stay on track with meeting our goal.
Once I acknowledged what would be lost if we continued arguing to get our own way, I knew what I had to do.
I met with the person I had the disagreement with & said, "Look. We both want the same thing. We need to make a decision so let's do it your way so we can accomplish our goal."
And guess what? We no longer have an issue. I will still get the end result I was aiming for. So really we BOTH won! Winning is winning & it's always sweeter when each person is satisfied.
I hope this helps you in any disagreement you encounter if it applies. Now go be a winner!
Best wishes for our (yours and mine) optimal health & wellness,
Kaja Green-Tovar
Recently I won a disagreement by "giving in". Okay wait! Before you click and go away, understand that I really did win by giving in.
You see, an associate wanted the same thing I wanted but we argued over how to get the end result. I was annoyed because their way was going to take longer than necessary. However, I realized this individual was NOT willing to cave just as I wasn't. Then I took a nice walk. While I was walking, I came to the realization, thankfully sooner rather than later, that "someone" would have to give in to stay on track with meeting our goal.
Once I acknowledged what would be lost if we continued arguing to get our own way, I knew what I had to do.
I met with the person I had the disagreement with & said, "Look. We both want the same thing. We need to make a decision so let's do it your way so we can accomplish our goal."
And guess what? We no longer have an issue. I will still get the end result I was aiming for. So really we BOTH won! Winning is winning & it's always sweeter when each person is satisfied.
I hope this helps you in any disagreement you encounter if it applies. Now go be a winner!
Best wishes for our (yours and mine) optimal health & wellness,
Kaja Green-Tovar
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