Greetings!
Thanks for stopping by. Really, I thank you because it has been a long while since I last posted here.
Publicizing my intention on Facebook to blog more frequently is the reason I did not put off posting yet again.
This post is about meeting new people when you've been alive for 35 plus years. Many mature singles live in different cities, states, and countries from where they have familial relations due to work and having relocated with a former companion, or for whatever other reason.
Mature singles meet others at work all the time but when most people are married and have plans with their spouse and kids, it's not easy to find people who are available for doing fun things with during your downtime. Luckily, all is not lost because there are many ways to connect with others who share your single status, downtime-free lifestyle.
For finding platonic friendships--and possibly romance, if you're open to it--below are several ways to meet people who might like to join you for playing cards, dining out, going hiking, or whatever it is you're interested in:
1) Volunteer. You can volunteer to man stations for sporting events. Some people volunteer at libraries and museums. Organizations like Habitat for Humanity, Volunteer Match, and many others will be grateful for your time and effort.
2) Join a club. Joining a club that offers something you're interested in is a great way to network and enjoy your downtime. Whether it's a writing club, toastmaster's club, running club, or something else, you'll get to socialize outside of the workplace. And for entrepreneurs (including author-entrepreneurs), participating in a club that interests you will expand the number of people who might want your services/products.
3) Search Online. In most cities, the website Meetup.com is available for you to find groups that are interested in a wide variety of topics. It was on Meetup.com that I found out where to go for dance lessons in my local area. Speaking of dancing, I need to return to the classes soon. Fortunately, I have been busy following the above advice I'm dishing out so I have to find time for it in my schedule again.
I've named 3 easy ways to expand your social life. I know it's not easy putting yourself in new situations with new people, but if you'll remember that the people you are looking for are looking for you, too, will help you relax.
Take a look at my short YouTube video for inspiration regarding single women and dating: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8yRC8_m_EVg
My book, Rhonda's Quest for Romance is available here: https://www.amazon.com/K.G.-T./e/B01B14UT5Y/ref=sr_ntt_srch_lnk_1?qid=1484265215&sr=1-1
Best wishes for each person's optimal health and wellness!
Kaja Green-Tovar
Thursday, January 12, 2017
Monday, December 7, 2015
Is Online Dating Safe?
Greetings!
You stopped here because you were wondering if online dating is a safe thing to do. I believe online dating is safe, if you take the following precautions:
1) Do not reveal personal or highly sensitive information about yourself. Basically, do not share your physical address, social security number, bank account information, and that kind of thing.
2) Always, always, always meet the person you've been corresponding with in a public location. Preferably in a neutral location where you are not likely to run into the person again if you don't want to. Meeting at your favorite café may not be such a grand idea if you decide you want to avoid seeing your date again; especially, if he or she still wants to see you!
3) Tell someone - a relative, friend, neighbor, or acquaintance - about your plans to meet with someone you've met online. This way someone somewhere knows where you are going and expects you to return.
By the way, the above precautions applies to anyone of any age and gender!
In my fiction novel, Rhonda's Quest For Romance, you can follow along and laugh (or cringe), depending on what part you're reading, about her dalliances with the different men she meets from an online dating site.
Rhonda is a 30-year-old librarian with two cats and she is determined to find a lifetime partner in 90 days!
Click below for the book:
http://www.amazon.com/Rhondas-Quest-Romance-K-G-T-ebook/dp/B01709WC18/ref=sr_1_1?s=digital-text&ie=UTF8&qid=1449516599&sr=1-1&keywords=rhonda%27s+quest+for+romance)
Whatever you decide to do, be safe and enjoy! :-)
You stopped here because you were wondering if online dating is a safe thing to do. I believe online dating is safe, if you take the following precautions:
1) Do not reveal personal or highly sensitive information about yourself. Basically, do not share your physical address, social security number, bank account information, and that kind of thing.
2) Always, always, always meet the person you've been corresponding with in a public location. Preferably in a neutral location where you are not likely to run into the person again if you don't want to. Meeting at your favorite café may not be such a grand idea if you decide you want to avoid seeing your date again; especially, if he or she still wants to see you!
3) Tell someone - a relative, friend, neighbor, or acquaintance - about your plans to meet with someone you've met online. This way someone somewhere knows where you are going and expects you to return.
By the way, the above precautions applies to anyone of any age and gender!
In my fiction novel, Rhonda's Quest For Romance, you can follow along and laugh (or cringe), depending on what part you're reading, about her dalliances with the different men she meets from an online dating site.
Rhonda is a 30-year-old librarian with two cats and she is determined to find a lifetime partner in 90 days!
Click below for the book:
http://www.amazon.com/Rhondas-Quest-Romance-K-G-T-ebook/dp/B01709WC18/ref=sr_1_1?s=digital-text&ie=UTF8&qid=1449516599&sr=1-1&keywords=rhonda%27s+quest+for+romance)
Whatever you decide to do, be safe and enjoy! :-)
Monday, July 20, 2015
Aging Well Starts Here...
Greetings!
As a healthy living enthusiast and lover of humanity, I want to share with you that aging well starts here:
That's right! Aging well starts in your mind when YOU decide to be grateful for the number of years you have been fortunate to accumulate in your life's journey.
You see, the alternative to advancing up the chronological ladder of age is to not get older. And we know what it means to cease having birthdays.
Therefore, start the process of aging well by choosing to appreciate being alive. Be grateful for having survived and thrived through different situations over the years.
Aging is a blessing because with each new day, each new moment, you get the chance to grow spiritually.
Whether you're 40, 70, or 90, it's fantastic that you're still here evolving and being afforded more time to spend with people and activities you care about.
Best wishes for our (yours and mine) optimal health and wellness,
Kaja
As a healthy living enthusiast and lover of humanity, I want to share with you that aging well starts here:
...in YOUR mind.
That's right! Aging well starts in your mind when YOU decide to be grateful for the number of years you have been fortunate to accumulate in your life's journey.
You see, the alternative to advancing up the chronological ladder of age is to not get older. And we know what it means to cease having birthdays.
Therefore, start the process of aging well by choosing to appreciate being alive. Be grateful for having survived and thrived through different situations over the years.
Aging is a blessing because with each new day, each new moment, you get the chance to grow spiritually.
Whether you're 40, 70, or 90, it's fantastic that you're still here evolving and being afforded more time to spend with people and activities you care about.
Best wishes for our (yours and mine) optimal health and wellness,
Kaja
Tuesday, May 12, 2015
A Positive Way to Think About Aging
Greetings!
NOTE: When I refer to good mental health, I am speaking of being absent of mental illnesses such as Alzheimer's or diagnosed mentally debilitating illnesses.
If you are an adult with good mental health, you are capable of CHOOSING how well you take care of your mind and body. This is true whether you are eighteen or one-hundred!
We are all aging chronologically; however, growing older is not synonymous with becoming outdated, useless, purposeless, boring or the other negative stereotype associated with advancing in age.
NOTE: When I refer to good mental health, I am speaking of being absent of mental illnesses such as Alzheimer's or diagnosed mentally debilitating illnesses.
If you are an adult with good mental health, you are capable of CHOOSING how well you take care of your mind and body. This is true whether you are eighteen or one-hundred!
We are all aging chronologically; however, growing older is not synonymous with becoming outdated, useless, purposeless, boring or the other negative stereotype associated with advancing in age.
I like to think of aging as evolving.
Evolving (a.k.a. aging) means growing, maturing, and progressing! As you long as you are alive, you can choose to evolve by trying new things, and using your maturity to become more efficient at living.
Look around you sometime. You'll notice people who perpetuate the negative stereotypes of aging by refusing to exercise the bodies they're still using to traverse the earth, or you'll hear people referring to themselves as over-the-hill. When you see the negative aspects of aging, it's usually the result of negative thinking & choices!
There are numerous senior-aged adults running marathons, biking, hiking, swimming, bowling, dancing, doing yoga, and many other activities. Of course, it's not just about physical activity; spiritual and intellectual pursuits matter, too. Spend time with good people, volunteer, maybe host a game night for a few acquaintances from time to time thus partaking in living because to evolve positively in life you must participate, not stagnate.
Feel free to share additional insights in the comments section below!
Best wishes for our (yours & mine) optimal health and wellness,
-Kaja
Look around you sometime. You'll notice people who perpetuate the negative stereotypes of aging by refusing to exercise the bodies they're still using to traverse the earth, or you'll hear people referring to themselves as over-the-hill. When you see the negative aspects of aging, it's usually the result of negative thinking & choices!
There are numerous senior-aged adults running marathons, biking, hiking, swimming, bowling, dancing, doing yoga, and many other activities. Of course, it's not just about physical activity; spiritual and intellectual pursuits matter, too. Spend time with good people, volunteer, maybe host a game night for a few acquaintances from time to time thus partaking in living because to evolve positively in life you must participate, not stagnate.
Feel free to share additional insights in the comments section below!
Best wishes for our (yours & mine) optimal health and wellness,
-Kaja
Wednesday, February 25, 2015
For Simple Decisions Try This!
Greetings!
Recently I was trying to make a simple, non-life-changing decision while I was at a breakfast-type restaurant. Basically, I was trying to decide between two delicious looking entrées. Both meals were on the healthy side and equally appealing to my appetite, but the longer I mulled over which want I wanted, the harder it felt to make a choice. Luckily, I great idea flashed in my mind!
I acted on that idea and flip a coin! Guess what flipping the coin did? It provided me with instant relief. By flipping the coin over such a simple decision I was done spending time mulling over the two dishes!
Of course, keep your wits and understand that I am not suggesting we flip a coin over life-changing matters such as where to attend university, whether or not to get married, or what size vehicle to buy. Big decision require sincere thought and strategies. In another post, I will address the topic of making big decisions.
Staying in the present, most likely you will agree that for small decisions such as picking out which meal to purchase at a restaurant, which lip gloss or nail polish to wear, or picking out a tie to wear with a dress shirt - we should not expend to much time and energy. Since time and energy affects productivity, it's best to use them wisely.
The next time you find yourself trying to choose what food dish to order or which DVD movie to watch, reserve your time and energy and flip a coin!
I hope this tip helps you deal with making simple decisions.
I blog about different topics (big and small) that affect our human experiences, so stayed tuned and take care!
Best wishes for our (yours and mine) optimal health and wellness,
Kaja Green-Tovar
Recently I was trying to make a simple, non-life-changing decision while I was at a breakfast-type restaurant. Basically, I was trying to decide between two delicious looking entrées. Both meals were on the healthy side and equally appealing to my appetite, but the longer I mulled over which want I wanted, the harder it felt to make a choice. Luckily, I great idea flashed in my mind!
I acted on that idea and flip a coin! Guess what flipping the coin did? It provided me with instant relief. By flipping the coin over such a simple decision I was done spending time mulling over the two dishes!
Of course, keep your wits and understand that I am not suggesting we flip a coin over life-changing matters such as where to attend university, whether or not to get married, or what size vehicle to buy. Big decision require sincere thought and strategies. In another post, I will address the topic of making big decisions.
Staying in the present, most likely you will agree that for small decisions such as picking out which meal to purchase at a restaurant, which lip gloss or nail polish to wear, or picking out a tie to wear with a dress shirt - we should not expend to much time and energy. Since time and energy affects productivity, it's best to use them wisely.
The next time you find yourself trying to choose what food dish to order or which DVD movie to watch, reserve your time and energy and flip a coin!
I hope this tip helps you deal with making simple decisions.
I blog about different topics (big and small) that affect our human experiences, so stayed tuned and take care!
Best wishes for our (yours and mine) optimal health and wellness,
Kaja Green-Tovar
Saturday, February 14, 2015
In Matters of the Heart
Greetings!
In matters of the heart, it is important for you to love yourself so you can really love your significant other, family members, friends, or whoever is near and dear to you.
One way to show love to yourself is to be proactive about dealing with or managing stress. Every person incurs some kind of stress once in while, but if you find ways to deal with it adequately, you can keep from being ongoing (chronic) or from becoming life-threatening (heart-attacks, and other medical conditions).
Some simple ways to manage stress and keep it from damaging your heart are to:
Kaja Green-Tovar
In matters of the heart, it is important for you to love yourself so you can really love your significant other, family members, friends, or whoever is near and dear to you.
One way to show love to yourself is to be proactive about dealing with or managing stress. Every person incurs some kind of stress once in while, but if you find ways to deal with it adequately, you can keep from being ongoing (chronic) or from becoming life-threatening (heart-attacks, and other medical conditions).
Some simple ways to manage stress and keep it from damaging your heart are to:
- Relax
- Talk with a friend to prevent concerns from boiling within
- Exercise - the release of endorphins will help you feel better as you cope with whatever concerns you have
- Breathe deeply and slowly - this will help you to relax
- Have Fun - Do something you enjoy that requires you to be engaged (such as dancing, drawing, journaling, reading, completing word puzzles, strength training, or whatever engages you so that you only think of the activity you are doing)
Kaja Green-Tovar
Friday, November 14, 2014
Being Happy Is Beneficial To You AND Others!
Greetings Dear Reader!
It's been a couple of weeks (or more) since my last post. I got busy and had to deal with a very unpredictable schedule.
Today I'm sharing that being happy benefits you, AND the people around you.
The benefits of being happy for YOU:
*Feeling happy means you are not feeling overly stressed
*Happiness allows you to interact kindly with others, and in turn they will most likely act kindly towards you as well
*Being happy boosts your confidence about life, helping you to feel that life is great - or at least okay
The benefits of you being happy for the people around you:
*When you're happy, the people around you can relax
*The people around you can do what they need to do calmly
*Your happy vibes will make them feel happy, too
There are plenty more benefits of being happy. Feel free to leave a comment with other benefits of being happy.
Best wishes for our (yours and mine) optimum quality of life,
Kaja Green-Tovar
It's been a couple of weeks (or more) since my last post. I got busy and had to deal with a very unpredictable schedule.
Today I'm sharing that being happy benefits you, AND the people around you.
The benefits of being happy for YOU:
*Feeling happy means you are not feeling overly stressed
*Happiness allows you to interact kindly with others, and in turn they will most likely act kindly towards you as well
*Being happy boosts your confidence about life, helping you to feel that life is great - or at least okay
The benefits of you being happy for the people around you:
*When you're happy, the people around you can relax
*The people around you can do what they need to do calmly
*Your happy vibes will make them feel happy, too
There are plenty more benefits of being happy. Feel free to leave a comment with other benefits of being happy.
Best wishes for our (yours and mine) optimum quality of life,
Kaja Green-Tovar
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