Being Happy Is Beneficial To You AND Others!

Greetings Dear Reader!

It's been a couple of weeks (or more) since my last post. I got busy and had to deal with a very unpredictable schedule.

Today I'm sharing that being happy benefits you, AND the people around you.

The benefits of being happy for YOU:

*Feeling happy means you are not feeling overly stressed

*Happiness allows you to interact kindly with others, and in turn they will most likely act kindly towards you as well

*Being happy boosts your confidence about life, helping you to feel that life is great - or at least okay

The benefits of you being happy for the people around you:

*When you're happy, the people around you can relax

*The people around you can do what they need to do calmly

*Your happy vibes will make them feel happy, too

There are plenty more benefits of being happy. Feel free to leave a comment with other benefits of being happy.

Best wishes for our (yours and mine) optimum quality of life,
Kaja Green-Tovar

Daily Planning Allows Us To Use Time Effectively

Greetings Dear Reader,

My last post was four days ago on 12 September. So far I have been keeping up with daily planning, which is this months topic.

As I am continuously aware of what my daily schedule involves, I am seeing opportunities to implement time for other goals I wish to accomplish and actions I wish to take.

Daily planning allows us to effectively assess how we are spending our time. It also lets us know when and where in our schedules we can add or delete activities in order to do all that we want. And yes, sometimes the thing you want to do is get more rest! Whatever is you wish to accomplish, daily planning will help you.

Best wishes for our (yours and mine) optimal quality of life!
Kaja Green-Tovar

Starting Over With Achieving My Goal

Greetings Dear Reader,

On September 2, 2014, I posted about making daily planning a habit. Well, guess what?! I have to start over!!! I did attempt to establish the new goal but did not take actions to implement my goal for a week. Luckily, this is a personal goal and not one that someone tasked me with.

I am starting over today (12 September 2014 - Friday). My new job requires me to literally be up and down (in the sky and on the ground) but there is no reason I can not accomplish the goal of daily planning. After all, this should be done in advance anyway and tweaked as necessary.

Therefore, I am starting over with achieving my goal of making daily planning a habit! I am going to annotate my schedule for the remainder of this month and make updates each evening and/or morning when necessary. By the way, I am treating myself like I would my best friend (since I really am my #1 best friend) and I am reminding myself that at least I tried and encouraging myself to "try again".

 

Best wishes for each of us to have a productive, high quality existence,
Kaja Green-Tovar

Making Daily Planning A Habit

Greetings Dear Reader!

I'm blogging this month about making a daily planning a HABIT. Why? Because this is something I need to improve upon and the best way to make it happen is to gain support and be held accountable by sharing this goal with others. Plus, I'm sure there are other who like to begin or renew the habit of daily planning.

Why plan the day when anything can happen? Somewhere someone is reading this is asking, "Why plan the day when anything can happen?" or thinking, "Life is much better when the days are 'spontaneous'."

I get such thinking as I, too, am aware than anything can happen and I am all for spontaneity - but... daily planning helps us to prioritize, mitigate the possibility of becoming over-extended, and lets you know ahead of time if you have that extra time for a little 'spontaneity'.

Better planning would have made today less taxiing or a little more relaxed. You see, this evening I will attend training for my new job and will not be done until the wee hours of the morning. At least knowing in advance when I have to be there helps with budgeting time (a.k.a. time-management) for napping before I go in.

Also daily planning keeps us from forgetting what needs to be done and lets us know when there's time to simply do fun stuff.

Again, the benefits of planning our day are listed below:
**Prioritize to-do list
**Mitigate the possibility of becoming over-extended
**Better budgeting of time (better time-management)
**Helps with remembering what needs to be done
**Let's us know when extra time will be available to simply do fun stuff

I hope this month's topic helps you as much as I'm looking for it to help me.

Best wishes for our (yours and mine) optimal health and wellness,
Kaja Green-Tovar

Are You 'Mentally' Fit For Work?

Greetings Dear Reader!

Thanks for stopping by to read this post. While we are aware that work is good thing, we need to be mentally fit for working, volunteering, attending training. How, you ask, is this accomplished? Read on for several ways to get mentally fit work:

First of all, having the right attitude will help your mentality for getting something accomplished (i.e. working). The quickest way to be shift your attitude to one of positivity is to be grateful for having work to do or accomplish. Somewhere, someone is wishing they had something to do or accomplish. Be grateful for what being entrusted to learn, volunteer, or do paid work.

Second, take care of your mind by getting adequate rest. When you are well rested, you are able to focus better and be more alert. Most, if not all of us, have experienced the occasional lack of sleep that has left of us feeling groggy and 'not totally there' the following day. Be mentally prepared for work by sleeping and resting well.

Third, feed yourself good nutrition. I like chocolate and most sweets but I refrain from over-indulging because I know that the boost I get from sugary snacks will send me crashing - hard! Therefore be mindful about what you eat. Choose nutritious food that adequately feel the body and leave you feeling good so you can get 'er done!

I hope the three tips above help you get mentally prepared for work. Feel free to post comments and add suggestions. I know there are many more tips that can be added, and they are most welcome.

Best wishes for our (yours and mine) optimal quality of life,
Kaja Green-Tovar

Work is a GOOD Thing!

Greetings Dear Reader!

Pardon my absence from posting here but I have had a very busy August 2014 so far but I'm once again controlling my schedule after temporarily allowing it to control me for the past couple of weeks.

For the remainder of August 2014, I will post about working (whether it's paid work, volunteer work, temporary work, or even a hobby; as long as you are "working" at something).

First of all, let's define work. The online dictionary at www.dictionary.com defines it as:
1. exertion or effort directed to produce or accomplish something; labor; toil.
2. something on which exertion or labor is expended; a task or undertaking.
3. productive or operative activity.

I'm blogging about work because work is a wonderful, beneficial endeavor. Why? Because it gives you a sense of purpose. It stimulates your brain and keeps your body active.

Ever notice how if you rest for too long, you feel lethargic, mentally slower, and not as alert? Or have you or someone you know had to be on bed rest and experienced muscular atrophy (weakening) as a result? Well, that is because as spiritual beings having a human experience we are designed to be mentally and physically active.

Therefore, if you volunteer, participate in a hobby, attend school, or have a job, you are doing a wonderful service for yourself. Make sure you APPRECIATE whatever it is that has you being mentally and physically active.

Best wishes for our (yours and mine) optimal ability to enjoy meaningful, enjoyable work!
Kaja Green-Tovar

Senior Citizens Setting Super Examples!

Greetings Dear Reader!

This month is ALMOST over but while we are still in July, I am happily writing about aging well.

Today I am sharing about senior-aged citizens (and NEAR senior-aged citizens) setting super examples for living and aging well.

First of all, there is my relative. She works out about 5 days a week, takes excellent care of her skin, eats well, and is married to a gentleman who is younger than her. Now this relative of mine is way too nice to be called an um... 'cougar'. She just happened to feel connected to a man who has not been alive as long as she has. 

Then there are a few acquaintances such as Mr. D. Mr. D. has a career in law but recently, at the age of 65, he just earned his Cross-fit Trainer Certification! How about that?! He could just participate, which is also pretty super; however, he chose to share what he knows and train others in his spare time. I'm thinking this might be a 2nd career for him; especially, if he opens his own gymnasium.

There is Mr. L., a happily married and jovial gentleman, who I met along the Meramec Greenway this past week. Mr. L. rides his bike up and down the trail as well as those that are nearby for miles upon miles. Surely, he rides the length of a half marathon, and possibly more. Guess how old Mr. L. is ? Well, when he asked me to guess, I said about 58. Well, the correct answer is 73! Yes, 73! I am inspired by Mr. L. He is definitely setting an awesome example for aging well.

There are others who are setting super examples for aging and living well. Such as an individual I know who is helping to archive photos and other memorabilia for the religious center of his boyhood days. He is having a grand time reviving the memories and ensuring the religious center's history is not lost.

Oh! One more example. A few years back, I met an 84 years alive woman who told me she was a Peace Corps volunteer. She looked young and spirited. I can't recall her name but she spoke enthusiastically about flying to different places and helping out. She had a sense of meaning and purpose even though she lived alone. She was visiting my former neighbor when we happend upon each other but I have never forgotten her. That's because I was intrigued by the example she was setting.

Okay Dear Reader, let's keep a look out for more senior citizens who are setting super examples. Share this with others who may benefit from reading this post.

Best wishes for our (yours and mine) optimal ability to live and age well,
Kaja Green-Tovar

Aging and Changing Careers!

Greetings Dear Reader!

So with aging comes change and wisdom, right? Well, I hope so! Throughout our lives change happens but luckily the longer we've been alive, the more capable we are in dealing with new situations, people, or places.

One major change that can happen is we end a career and start a new one, or decide to volunteer our knowledge, skills, and abilities. Sometimes we do something that is in a totally different field from the one we've been doing, or from what we spent years in college studying for. But you know what?! That's okay!!!

Really, as we age there will be change. Things are way different from when you're the age of two to twenty-two, twenty-four to forty-four, thirty-six to sixty-six, and so on.

Let not your heart be troubled if what you've always done is not what you get to do now or tomorrow. Instead, pull up your bootstraps and dare to do something DIFFERENT!

It's okay to have been a CIA agent and then become a baker, or to have been a fitness trainer and then become a flight attendant. Perhaps you were a police officer once. Well, it's okay to go work as a truant officer so that you don't have to chase hardened criminals. Welcome the opportunity to do something different.

Choose to forego lamenting about what once was and stay in engaged in life by doing whatever you can do well and will enjoy - which may very well be something different. Don't forget that volunteering is another way to make an impact.

Best wishes for our (yours and mine) ability to embrace a new career when and if the time ever comes!
-Kaja Green-Tovar

Aging and Flirting!

Greetings Dear Reader!

Another thing about aging well is engaging in flirting! Yes, flirting. While many of us become very comfortable with our solitude we must be open to meeting new people and enjoying romance. It doesn’t mean you have to start planning a wedding date, but be open to chatting or going to coffee with someone who is interested in you other than only as a platonic friend.

Dare to flirt a little. You never know what might happen. Don’t worry! Flirting doesn’t mean you have to share your home, bed, or bank account. It’s just simple fun.

Give someone you might be interested a compliment, a wink, your business card. You get the idea!

Basically, enjoy flirting. Enjoy yourself – you and the person you’re flirting with deserves it.

Of course, this is NOT for people who are already in committed relationships. If you are in a committed relationship then please make it a point to flirt with your partner. If you don’t, someone else will.

Best wishes for our (yours and mine) optimal quality of life,

Kaja Green-Tovar

Aging and Change!

Greetings Dear Reader!

Remember this month's topic is about aging. We are all going to do this - I hope. After all, we know the alternative to aging.

As we continue to live, we have the right and ability to change our minds. We get to decide what we experience and the kinds of interactions we wish to have.

When we decide to change something, we are choosing to reinvent our experiences, interactions, or opportunities.

A good example of change at any age is someone choosing a to go to college for the first time or return to college for a new career path. Or it could be a person deciding to move to a different state or country. Whatever the change is, it is akin to reinventing one's life.

When we make changes in our lives, we gain new experiences and interact with new people. We also get exposed to new opportunities that may not have been present before we made a change.

I'm not saying to disregard familiarity and stability. We need those in our lives! What I'm advocating is the willingness to try something new; to give change a chance!

I hope this encourages you to continue trying new experiences and interacting in different social settings. Change at any age, can be a good thing!

Best wishes for our (yours and mine) optimal quality of life,
Kaja Green-Tovar

Aging And Wisdom!

Greetings Dear Reader,

Perhaps you are a middle aged person (or older), or know someone who is. Whichever person you are, you need to know the following:

With age comes wisdom; however, as long as we live we are still learning.

The above statement is important because... we must respect where others have been and gain insights from the wisdom they are willing to share. We do not have to agree with everything told to us, but we can value and seize opportunities from those who have been there and done that. After all, with age comes wisdom.

We are all growing, as long as we breathe, in one way or another. Live well, love much, learn from your experiences, and then share what you know.

Best wishes for our (yours and mine) ability to live, love, learn, and share the wisdom that comes with age.

-Kaja Green-Tovar

No. 1 Accessory To Look Better At Any Age!

Greetings Dear Reader,

Get ready to find out what is the best accessory at ANY age! You'll want to keep the accessory clean, fresh, and sincere. This number one accessory WILL help you to not only look better, but feel better as well.

Ready to know what this accessory is? Read on!

The accessory is a SMILE! Yes, a smile will help anyone to look better. And fortunately, your accessory is unique to you - unless of course you have an identical twin! Your accessory may come with perfect teeth, an overbite, or missing teeth but as long as it's clean, fresh, and most importantly SINCERE, your smile will help you to look and feel better.

So what are you wearing right now? I hope it's a SMILE!

Smiling selfie taken while somebody else was driving.

 

Best wishes for our (yours and mine) optimal health and wellness,

Kaja Green-Tovar

Learning and Growning As We Age!

Greetings Dear Reader!

Do you or someone you know feel that because a certain number of years have been lived, we should handle on our emotions perfectly well? Many of us feel that as we age, we should have a better grip on our emotions than we did when we were younger. While experience helps us to handle our emotions better and faster most of the time, it does not mean we do so all of the time.

As we get older, we don't always handle our emotions as well as we think we should. And you know what?! It's OKAY!!!

As we live another moment, day, week, or year, we continue to grow as a result of new experiences and encounters. Sometimes we handle these new experiences and encounters with perfect aplomb; other times we might temporarily lose our composure.

Earlier, I briefly felt quite frustrated. I was floating along thinking positive thoughts and doing what I needed to do with great ease and poise. Then suddenly I encountered a situation that left me in tears. Luckily, this lasted in private for only about two minutes (if even that long), but the point is that my feelings of frustration caused me to feel emotionally upset. I'm sharing this because while it's easy to think that as we age we should be better at handling life's circumstances, we are still spiritual beings dealing with the human realm of things.

If we did not have more learning or growing to do, we would be on the next  plane of existence wherever that may be, and not here on Earth. When we encounter a situation that ruffles our emotions, there is most likely something to learn. Once we learn what that is, we grow from it.

So Dear Readers, give yourselves a break. Just because we reach a certain number of years does not mean we get a pass from dealing with new (or old) circumstances that cause us to learn and grow.

I hope this post helps you or someone you know take it easy the next time they feel frustrated when they normally feel poised and ready for anything.

Best wishes for our (yours and mine) optimal quality of life,
Kaja Green-Tovar

Don't forget to check out Lucky At The Lake: A Years Alive, Not Years Old Novelette:

http://www.amazon.com/Lucky-At-The-Lake-Novelette/dp/150015072X

I See Older People!

Greetings Dear Reader!

I see older people! I see them each morning that I go walking or running at one of the many awesome parks where I live.

 

And you know what? I love seeing them. I love seeing people who are so much older than me setting the example, whether they mean to or not, for taking care of their body vehicles.

 

Some of the older people I see are walking, jogging, or riding their bikes through the parks. Often they are smiling and looking as though life is awesome!

 

During my runs or walks, I frequently see one older woman in particular who walks 6.6 miles with her small dog, and then gets her bike off of her bike rack, puts her little dog in a basket, and rides the same trail they just walked. By the way, her legs look AMAZING! I don't know exactly how many years she's been alive but she is older than me, which lets me know that I too can continue being active as I evolve through the years.

 



Folks, I see older people and they are out and about doing some really cool things! From being apart of quilting groups, running and biking groups, enjoying a good book at the library, or working out at the gym, they are participating in life peacefully and purposefully. 

 

My mother is another good example of someone who is aging well. She looks much younger than her years because of how she takes care of her skin and manages her weight. She also does meaningful work, and takes time to enjoy life by going to nearby cities, local parks, the beach, and the like.

Take note of the older people around you and be inspired.

Best wishes for our (yours and mine) optimal quality of life,
Kaja Green-Tovar

Aging On Your Terms!

Greetings Dear Reader!

As much as I am an "aging well enthusiast", there was a time I abhorred revealing my age. I'm not saying that nowadays I go around with a sign up showing how many years I've been alive, but I no longer cringe or feel distraught over having my age known.

What happened to make me feel more tranquil about how many years I've been alive? I realized I am aging on MY terms not anyone else's.

People care more about their own age more than they could ever care about yours. We sometimes inquire about each other's ages, sure. But it's not really that significant. Besides, how we live is more important than the number of years we have been alive. Read that bold-font sentence again!

Someone who was very close to me died at only forty-nine years from a vehicular accident. That person was energetic, kind, and lived life purposefully! Not only was their spirit great, but that person also took great care of their physical body by eating properly and exercising on a regular basis. I'm sharing about this person because although death came far earlier than expected, their life was lived very well. They probably did more in their forty-nine years than some people do in their one hundred years! The point is that regardless of how long we live or have been alive, what matters is how we live.

As we age, we have the right to do it well, or not; either way, we get to do so on our own terms.

The following are some tips on aging well:

• Keep your body in motion to prevent stiffness and a decrease in mobility. Eat well to manage your weight so you do not burden your skeleton frame with excess fat. It's never to late to start an exercise regimen or change your eating habits.
• Listen to or read good news stories instead of terrifying reports. Be your own best friend.
• Give your self a pep talk when no one else around to do it for you. Pat your self on the back, or your knee if you can't reach your upper back too well.
• Be kind to yourself. Make it a habit of saying nice things to yourself about yourself.

You have the right to age on YOUR terms. How will you chose to do it? I hope well.

Best wishes for our (yours and mine) optimal quality of life,
Kaja Green-Tovar

 Happy to be 39 years alive! Selfie taken May 2014! I'm wearing a tank top by the way. I am NOT topless!

Age-wise, We Travel The Same Direction

Greetings Dear Reader!

Do you know that age-wise, we are all going the same direction? Ponder that a moment. It's one more of the many things we humans have in common. So why do some of us discriminate and devalue the older humans amongst us?

I think there is age-discrimination and devaluing of elderly aged individuals because we forget that we're all going in the same direction.

But you know what? Ageing ceases to happen when you die! Therefore, if one is still alive then there is more life he or she needs to experience. More growth to do. It must not be taken for granted that no matter how many years we have been alive, our spirits are in our bodies to have the human experience.

Getting older is a blessing! It means we're still here to enjoy our family, friends, work, and hobbies a little longer. Ageing sure is better than the alternative - at least most of us think so!

Life is a journey where, as spiritual beings, we continue to grow and evolve throughout our human experiences. Living is a wonderful thing. As we live, we age (aging is synonymous with evolving, changing, growing).

Basically, aging happens folks! No more lamenting about it! If aging concerns you, then do what you can to age well, gracefully, and mindfully. Start setting the standards for your younger friends and family members for aging with grace and poise.

Age-wise, we travel the same direction. Be grateful that you still exist to Live, Love, Learn, and Share in the journey of life.

Best wishes for our (yours and mine) ability to age well,
Kaja Green-Tovar

Yours truly (born 1975): photo taken in 2014.

Delays In Reaching Goals Happens Sometimes

Greetings Dear Reader!

Thanks as always for stopping by!

So I have been in the process of relocating to the great state of Missouri. I am liking it in the St. Louis / Kirkwood areas more than I ever anticipated.

While finding a great apartment with the longest patio ever and hardwood floors in the living room plus a real fireplace (not the flip the switch kind - although those are very nice, too).

Well, I would give more details about my place such as how I look out into a forest when I'm on the balcony but I'm talking about reaching goals not my new pad.

Photo of the long balcony!

So I got "understandably" delayed in getting out my next Years Alive, Not Years Old Novelette. Although the first one (Lucky At The Lake) is out and available for your reading your pleasure!

http://www.amazon.com/Lucky-At-Lake-Years-Novelette/dp/150015072X/ref=sr_1_6/190-2135917-1898816?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1403557762&sr=1-6

Now that things have settled down (a bit anyway), I will continue with posting on this blog which helps me as much as I hope it helps you.

Delays happen but that's okay because by having a clearly stated goal, you can and will get back on track.

Best wishes for our (yours and mine) optimal quality of life,
Kaja Green-Tovar

The First Thing You'll Need To Reach A Goal

Greetings Dear Reader!

Thanks for stopping by! Throughout the remainder of June 2014, I am writing motivational tips about reaching our goals.

The first step to reaching a goal is to set one and make sure it's S.M.A.R.T.

A SMART goal is one that is Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic, and Time-wise.

A recent goal that I set was to self-publish my novelette Lucky On The Lake, by Wednesday 11 June 2014.

Having the idea of self-publishing was only idea until I made plans to make it a reality. Making plans and taking action steps to turn my idea into a reality is what made it a goal.

Share about a goal you have. Please allow 24 hours for me to respond to any comments!

Best wishes for our (yours and mine) optimal quality of life!
Kaja Green-Tovar

Reaching Our Goals!

Greetings Dear Reader!

Thanks for stopping by. I have been gallivanting around the St. Louis, New Madrid, Fenton, and the Ozark National Scenic Riverways areas in the state of Missouri.

Today I'm back in St. Louis along with the two amazing cats I agree to take care for the next year! It's nice to be trusted with a loved ones pets.

     **By the way, they are pretty good travelers!

 

 



Anyways, I'm sharing this information to let you know that although I'm still travelling, I am back to blogging!

For the remainder of June 2014 I will share motivational quotes and anecdotes for reaching our goals and following our dreams no matter what our current circumstances look like!

Here's some motivation:
As a human being, you have probably experienced your share of highs and lows, but if you're still breathing, that means you got through it alive. If need be, you will find the necessary strength to make it through any lows so you can enjoy the highs of life and forge ahead to reaching your goals.

Best wishes for our (yours and mine) optimal quality of life!
Kaja Green-Tovar

Don't Worry About Changing Your Mind!

Greetings Dear Reader!

Sometimes we have to make decisions based on the information presented to us or how we "feel". This is all well and dandy as long as we remember that we have the right to change our mind.

While I am definitely one for being decisive and taking action, I understand that it is okay to change our minds. If you are the kind of person who feels "guilty", "fickle", or "immature" for changing your mind... stop!

Don't worry about what anyone else thinks about you changing your mind unless it impacts them in some way. If your decision is a personal one that does not involve others, don't worry about changing your mind!


You are the only one who has to live with your decisions. People may observe what is going on in your life, but unless they are obsessed with you, they will not care for long. So go ahead, be true to yourself. Make your decisions, but as new information becomes available, or if you simply have a change of heart, don't worry about changing your mind.

You are FREE to decide to go with a different decision anytime you choose!

Best wishes for you to worry less,
Kaja Green-Tovar

Motivation To NOT Worry In A Song!

Greetings Dear Reader!

Thanks for stopping by. Below is a link to video for motivation to not worry. The motivation is in the form of a song.

I own no rights to the song or video. I'm simply providing a link to it. Watch it. It's cool!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d-diB65scQU

Best wishes for our (yours and mine) optimal health and wellness,
Kaja Green-Tovar :-)

Instead Of Worrying About Your Weight, Do This!

Greetings Dear Reader!

Many of us worry about our weight. While being concerned about it can be helpful, worrying can be harmful. When we are concerned about our weight, we recognize the need for improvement or maintenance. When we are worried about our weight, we are likely to feel forlorn and upset about it.

Instead of worrying, recognize your concern and make efforts to do something about changing, improving, or maintaining your weight. If how you look in, or out, of your clothes concerns you, start taking action to address the issues you have.

First, be thankful for your body and its functioning. After all, it is the instrument or vehicle that allows you to experience life on earth. Basically, be grateful for your body vehicle. You can work on it so it looks and functions better by CHOOSING to nourish it with healthy foods, adequate sleep, and physical activity.

Second, do what you can with the resources you have available to incorporate more physical activity into your life. If you can walk, walk. If you can jog, jog. If you can swim, swim. These things can be done at a gym or the park. Instead of a night out at the movies, go bowling or skating.

Third, if you watch television, be active through commercials. Same for online videos. If you're watching a video and it's interrupted with a commercial or advertisement, get up and move! You can do this! :)

As always, feel free to leave a comment.

For A to Z motivational tips, get the book (available in print and on kindle):

http://www.amazon.com/A-B-C-Book-Health-Fitness-Motivation/dp/1481091409

Best wishes for our (yours and mine) optimal health and wellness,
Kaja Green-Tovar

Replace Thoughts Of Worry

Greetings Dear Reader!

Today's tip to help you diminish or do away with worrying is to:

Replace thoughts of worry with an activity or a different thought.

The above tip is simple and effective. Replacing thoughts of worry does not mean you stop caring. It just means that you take a time-out and get some mental rest from the situation you are fretting about.

Here's an example:
Let's say you worry because you're late for work. Replace your thoughts of worrying about being late with something like the following:

Replacement Thought #1: "I am late, but I when I get to work I will be very productive."

Replacement Thought #2: "I am late for my dinner date, but I will drive safely and arrive in good spirits!"

Feel free to leave a replacement thought in the comments section.

Remember: Helpful tips for overcoming worrying will be provided here for the remainder of May 2014!

Best wishes for our (yours and mine) optimal health and wellness!
Kaja Green-Tovar

Is Someone Upset With You? Try These Four Tips Instead Of Worrying!

Greetings Dear Reader,

Remember: from May 16-31, 2014, I am posting suggestions and tips for diminishing or doing away with worrying.

For today, let's discuss how to stop worrying about someone being upset with you. First of all, we must acknowledge that regardless of why someone is upset with us, the only thing we can truly control is OUR RESPONSE to the other person or situation.

**Be like the ducks! Let the water roll off our backs!

Instead of worrying about someone being upset with you, try the following:

1) Respect the other person's difference of opinion or point of view. If the disagreement gets a bit heated, be dignified and refrain from name-calling or insults.  As long as you control how you express yourself, you will not have to worry about adding more reasons for anyone to be upset with you.


2) Accept that YOU have a choice to engage or disengage in communicating. You can choose to disengage if someone is irate or making nasty remarks . You can decide to distance yourself physically to stay safe or prevent a situation from escalating. Whether you engage or disengage, the person might still be upset. Spend time focusing on how to best move forward instead of worrying.

3) If someone is upset with you, it's okay to talk about the situation with someone you trust to help you cope or calm down. Stick to the facts of the situation without trying to get anyone to take your side. If possible, don't even include the person's name when talking about the situation. This way you get to air your concerns instead of worrying about them!

4) Listen to the person who is upset with you without trying to change their mind or convince them that they are wrong. Sometimes allowing another person to talk until they run out of things to say, can help them release pent up frustrations. Listening to the person who is upset helps you because no matter the outcome, you don't have to worry about whether you gave listening a try. Of course, if they are being disrespectful or threatening, just see number two above.

I hope the above tips help you to not worry so much when someone gets upset with you. Feel free to leave a comment and share tips on how to deal with someone who is upset with you.

Best of the best wishes for our (yours and mine) optimal health and wellness! -Kaja Green-Tovar

Experiencing Insomnia? Instead of Worrying About It, Try This!

Greetings Dear Reader!

Many of us are fortunate to get adequate rest to function optimally. However, if you or someone you know frequently experience insomnia, the following might help you to do away with it, or at least deal with it:

First of all, know that while insomnia may feel extremely uncomfortable, it is highly unlikely to cause your sudden death! That's important and should provide a bit of relief!

Second, struggling with insomnia only serves to increase how much you worry, which will further keep you from falling asleep.

One way, though not the only way, to deal with insomnia is to do something with the hours or moments that you can't fall asleep. Watch a movie in a different language, color in a coloring book, or draw a picture. Basically, take advantage of being awake! Whatever you do, do it in a relaxed manner. No struggling. Relax.

Another way to deal with insomnia is to write down whatever is on your mind to free your mind from having to struggle with trying to remember what you need or want to accomplish for the following day.

I hope the above tips are helpful.

If you have a tip you would like to share, feel free to leave a comment. Your thoughts are most welcome!

Best wishes for our (yours and mine) optimal health and wellness!
Kaja Green-Tovar

The Thing About Any Problem Is This...

Greetings!

One of the important things about any problem is this:
Worrying about it and over-analyzing the problem is ineffective. To diminish or do away with a problem, one must determine the best solution, and then take action to implement it.

Over the Mother's Day weekend I was very worried about driving on the Texas highways because of my vehicular accident last month in April. Well,
no matter how awful traffic became it was part of the route I needed to take in order to reach my destination. Worrying about it was not going to do any favors for my health!

The best solution I came up with was for me to drive on the access roads if or when traffic became to much for me to bear. It took me longer than the average driver to arrive at my destination but I was much less worried while I drove. I thought of a solution and implemented it.

Remember in the 2nd paragraph from the top, I stated we can diminish or do away with a problem. Even if your problems are not completely gone away, diminishing the amount, or heaviness, of your worries about them will be good for your health.

Worried about something?
Brainstorm solutions.
Then implement the best one for your situation.

I hope this post helps you or someone you know.

For the remainder of this month, May 2014, I will post tips and suggestions about dealing with thoughts of worry.

Best wishes for our (yours and mine) optimal health and wellness,
Kaja Green-Tovar

How I Won An Argument!

Greetings Dear Reader!

Recently I won a disagreement by "giving in". Okay wait! Before you click and go away, understand that I really did win by giving in.

You see, an associate wanted the same thing I wanted but we argued over how to get the end result.  I was annoyed because their way was going to take longer than necessary.  However,  I realized this individual was NOT willing to cave just as I wasn't.  Then I took a nice walk. While I was walking, I came to the realization, thankfully sooner rather than later, that "someone" would have to give in to stay on track with meeting our goal.
Once I acknowledged what would be lost if we continued arguing to get our own way, I knew what I had to do.

I met with the person I had the disagreement with & said,  "Look. We both want the same thing. We need to make a decision so let's do it your way so we can accomplish our goal."

And guess what? We no longer have an issue.  I will still get the end result I was aiming for. So really we BOTH won! Winning is winning & it's always sweeter when each person is satisfied.

I hope this helps you in any disagreement you encounter if it applies.  Now go be a winner!

Best wishes for our (yours and mine) optimal health & wellness,
Kaja Green-Tovar

Any Woman Is Sexy If She Does This!

Greetings Dear Reader!

Regardless of a woman's race, age, body size, or age, she is sexy if she does her best to:

 MAKE

HEALTHY

LIFESTYLE

CHOICES!!!

 

You've all seen her at one time or another.  You know, the woman who actively demonstrates that she CARES about her health in a variety of ways. Perhaps she makes the effort to manage her sodium, sugar, or caloric intake. She might be the woman who makes sure she gets adequate rest, or finds ways to incorporate physical activity into her daily or weekly routine.  

Whatever the HEALTHY LIFESTYLE CHOICES are, it tells you this: She has the CONFIDENCE to know she deserves optimal wellness by making healthy lifestyle choices. And most people agree that CONFIDENCE is... SEXY.

Thanks to all the sexy women, and the people who love them, for reading this!

Best wishes for our (yours and mine) optimal health and wellness,

Kaja Green-Tovar 









Lend An Ear To A Caregiver

Greetings Dear Reader!

Today's post is inspired by a tweet from Project Eve about caring for caregivers.

One of the first tips in their article was to offer help to a caregiver as they may not always ask for it.

 

Very recently I spoke with a close friend who is caregiver to a parent w/ a form of dementia. My friend talked about movies, repairs he was making to an old sports car, and wood-chipping(?). I don't know much about car repairs (yes, I'm that kind of woman), nor do I know much about wood-chipping. But, I do know how to lend an ear.

My friend does not want for anything but the occasional normal conversation. I was glad to be of help. Remember: Help is help. Big or small in amount, it's still HELP.

Help a caregiver by listening. If you are the caregiver, then help yourself by reaching out and talking with a friend.

Here's the link to the blog post by Project Eve:
http://gettingbalance.com/who-takes-care-of-the-caregiver/?utm_content=buffer27a52&utm_medium=social&utm_source=twitter.com&utm_campaign=buffer

Best wishes for our (yours and mine) optimal health and wellness,
Kaja Green-Tovar

Horrific Experience; However,...

Greetings!

Thanks for stopping by. So I had a very horrific experience in San Antonio, TX this past Wednesday.

First of all, I was in San Antonio for a formal reason which turned out to be very wonderful. I was feeling really glad about the outcome of my visit.

 

To celebrate the good news, I was contentedly and carefully driving to Brackenridge Park to visit the Japanese/Chinese Tea Garden.

Well, on the way there, this happened:

Yes! I was rear-ended. The hatchback door of my vehicle was smashed and the window was smashed into oblivion. This event really rained on my emotional parade after getting good news and carefully driving to a nice park. (Obviously, I did not go to the park after the incident).

 

 

So now I'm in a rental until my car is repaired. Hopefully it gets repaired swiftly, but this means I'll be heading back to San Antonio.



 

Compare the back-to-back traffic of a place like San Antonio to the scene I came across this calm small-town morning. This kind of traffic is far less harrowing than what awaits folks in large cities such as San Antonio, Houston, and the like:

                                      **Look to the left and you will see the horse. There were two horses that the police, and I assume the owner, was trying to 'reign in', so to speak. Rarely are there substantial traffic issues in a small town!

 

I have some other options to consider and I'm thinking I must factor in "traffic" when making some big decisions! Hmm... 

 

Also, I am seriously trying to figure out if being rear-ended means I should not take the offer in San Antonio. After all, I do believe everything happens for a reason.

 

The two positives in all of this are... 1) it's nice to have options on where to relocate, AND 2) thankfully, I am alive and well to 'vent' about my horrific experience on this blog.

 

Best wishes for our (yours and mine) optimal health and wellness,

Kaja Green-Tovar

Following Your Arrow!

Greetings!

My posts are all about living well and having a good quality of life. I post different things all the time and today I'm sharing the link to a cool video featuring a neat song about following one's arrow.

Whatever you're doing today, be sure to follow your arrow... wherever you decide to point it. Don't forget that along the way you can ALWAYS change directions!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kQ8xqyoZXCc

Blessings for our (yours and mine) optimal health and happiness!
Kaja Green-Tovar

My Attempt to Write 3OK Words

Greetings Dear Reader!

Thanks for stopping by! I am now providing an update on the 30K words I attempted to write over the last weekend.

I made the attempt; however, I got in over 14K words, but not 30K. Being the resilient and positive person that I CHOOSE to be, I decided to focus on the following:

1) I set a goal, which provided me with a sense of purpose and direction.

2) I set a goal that was SMART:
    Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Reachable (for some people), & Time-wise.

3) Had I not set such a high goal to complete a 30K words, I probably would have written even less than 14K words.

Remember that sayings that goes something like the following: The higher the aim, the higher the reach; the lower the aim, the lower the reach. And then we all know that if you reach for nothing, you GET nothing!

Learned some things in the process of trying to write 30K words and I liked how nice I was to myself. I will continue to set goals. By the way, this weekend I published 2 short stories under a pen name. After uploading the 2 short stories, I walked 5 miles around the park below:

Set a goal for yourself. Reach for something and you'll get something. Reach for nothing and... well, just re-read this post.

Best wishes for our (yours and mine) optimal health and wellness,
Kaja Green-Tovar

30,000 Words in a Weekend?!?! It's A Goal!

Greetings Dear Reader,

Thanks for stopping by. I am on a mission this weekend to write 30,000 words toward, or hopefully for my upcoming fiction novel (or novelette).

My inspiration comes from reading about how author, Brian Keene, once wrote 85,000 over a weekend. His accomplishment is my inspiration to get in the 30,000 words between 28 March 2014 and 30 March 2014 by 2359 hours. I shall report my progress on Monday 31 March 2014 if not sooner. Here's the link to the blog that inspired me: http://blog.karenwoodward.org/2012/07/forget-nanowrimo-how-to-write-novel-in.html

I am limiting communication this weekend to accomplish my goal.

"Down to Gehenna or up to the throne, he travels fastest who travels alone." -Rudyard Kipling

Now I shall limit my contact with the outside world as I write, write, write away...

Best wishes for our (yours and mine) optimal health and wellness,
Kaja Green-Tovar :-)

Put THIS On Your Apple!

Greetings Dear Reader!

Thanks for stopping by! Today I am sharing about a new treat I recently discovered. Some of you may already know about this, but for those who do not, here it is:

The above is a photo of
a sliced green-apple with pure honey on top of it. Not much honey is required. Note that honey is about 60 calories per tablespoon. The small apple picture is about 65 calories.

So what does an apple topped with a small amount of honey taste like? To ME it tastes like a candy apple! Yes! You get the "candy-apple" taste without the caramel stuck in your teeth.

Try it out. This is a good way to get in that "apple a day".

Best wishes for our (yours and mine) optimal health and wellness,
Kaja Green-Tovar :)

Attitude Is Affected By Exercise

Greetings Dear Reader!

Thanks for dropping by to read this blog post! Today I am talking about how positively your attitude is affected by exercise - in a good way!

When you take care of yourself you feel good and are more likely to feel upbeat even if you encounter disagreeable situations or people.

With exercise you get the releasing of endorphins, which are hormones that help you feel good thus improving your attitude.

Having a positive attitude is beneficial because people notice and want to be around you. If you have ever encountered a co-worker, family member, or neighbor while they are happy and displaying energetic, upbeat behavior you probably smiled and felt good too without really knowing why.

 
 
 
 

 So go ahead! Do some squats, modified, push-ups, hula hoop, or run in place. Exercise to improve your attitude!




Best wishes for our (yours and mine) optimal health and wellness,
Kaja Green-Tovar

http://www.amazon.com/A-B-C-Book-Health-Fitness-Motivation/dp/1481091409

Enjoy The Process Of Creating The Experience

Greetings Dear Readers!

I hope each person reading this is having a great moment! Notice I stated, "moment". Remember, the very moment you are in is all that you have.

In each moment, focus on enjoying the process of creating the experience you want to have.

How do we do this:

1) Gratitude for the ability to be here now. When we appreciate being here and having the ability to do and experience life, it makes it an enjoyable experience.

I do this when completing chores around my apartment sometimes. I'll thank the Universal Spirit for the ability to do a task on my own or for knowledge about how to do something. This makes the chore not only tolerable, but more enjoyable because of my expression of gratitude.

2) Detach from the task and do it as an observer.

Detaching is really helpful to me when working on a project or task that needs to get done whether I want to do it or  not; especially, when I have to reorganize files or papers. I detach and go through the process as an observer. It's almost like an out of body experience, which serves to ease the process and lighten the experience.

3)  Smile.

Smiling sends signals to our brains that we are happy. Even if we are reasonably sad over a situation or not excited about some circumstance or interaction, smiling enhances one's mood almost instantly. Don't just smile quickly and start frowning again. Keep smiling until you giggle, feel delightfully silly, or in a way that is better than you felt before you started to smile.

Try the 3 techniques above to enjoy the process of creating the experience you want. Creating the experiences you want take some effort. You might as well enjoy the process!

Have a great day and best wishes for our (yours and mine) optimal health and wellness,
Kaja Green-Tovar

Breathe. Relax. Relax. Breathe.

Greetings Dear Reader,

In our quest to accomplish our goals and complete our tasks or to-do-lists, we must remember to take time to rest. Sometimes the resting period may last 10 minutes or 10 hours. However long it takes for you to recharge so you may resume your quest with energy and enthusiasm, take time out to do it.

Breathe. Relax. Relax. Breathe. Over and over again! Make it routine to avoid burnout and prevent stress.

Meditate, take a walk some place nice and quiet, or simply take a nap. I recently took a walk at a beautiful park (see the photo) and felt relaxed and rejuvenated.

Best wishes for our (yours and mine) optimal health and wellness,
Kaja Green-Tovar

See A Problem? Brainstorm Solutions!

Greetings Dear Reader,

This evening I came across the following proverb:

"Worry is like a rocking chair. It will give you something to do; but it won't get you anywhere."

Let's stop worrying over the youth in our lives and DO SOMETHING.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mEEPhq2inQs

Best wishes for our (yours and mine) optimal health and wellness,
Kaja Green-Tovar

Stop Complaining About Youth Being Harassed and... DO Something!

Greetings Dear Reader!

As a mother and caring citizen, I implore ceasing the expenditure of energy on COMPLAINING about youth being harassed, and DO SOMETHING!

In my book Preventing Harassment: Sharing Responsibility For Protecting All Youth, I share about teaching the youth in our lives how to interact in the world around them as well as present themselves in the manner they want to be treated. I use spiritual verses to back up my words!

Check it out:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1eLDjbAN3og

Best wishes for our (yours and mine) optimal health and wellness,
Kaja Green-Tovar

Preventing Harassment - Not Just Something to "Complain" About

Greetings Dear Reader,

As a parent and a member of a "minority" race and ethnicity, I want to share an important view about preventing harassment.

Harassment is not just something to "complain" about. Instead of being reactive, we must become proactive. By teaching the youth in our lives how to conduct and represent themselves, we may be able to save their lives.

Checkout the book, Preventing Harassment (Sharing Responsibility for All Youth):

http://www.amazon.com/Preventing-Harassment-Sharing-Responsbility-Protecting/dp/1496126394/ref=sr_1_2?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1394743503&sr=1-2&keywords=kaja+green-Tovar

Best wishes for our (yours and mine) optimal health and wellness,
Kaja Green-Tovar

An Interesting Encounter

Dear Readers,

On most nights I happily sleep alone but last night I slept with the late Dr. Ernest Holmes' voice in my room. You see I came across a full audio book (Creative Mind and Success) posted on YouTube, and I had the joy of listening to Dr. Ernest Holmes read the book.

It was amazing! It's a good thing I retired to bed early because I just had to hear all of it.

I am sharing the video link below:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0zEjYu5rAt4

Best wishes for our (yours and mine) optimal health and wellness,
Kaja Green-Tovar

Struggle Not

Dear Reader,

In the exact moment that you are reading this, you... are... okay. In THIS moment, not two seconds ago, but right now. You ARE okay.

We are safe and okay, provided that we turn away from struggling or attempts to force things to happen.

Not struggling is akin to floating on a river and going with the flow of the current to get to the river bank or shoreline, instead of paddling against the current to get there.

It's easier and safer to go with the flow.

Have a blessed day.

Best wishes for our (yours and mine) optimal health and wellness,
Kaja Green-Tovar

Twitter Is So Much Fun

Greeting Dear Readers,

I have to tell you that it took me a long while to jump on the social media/networking bandwagon. For quite some time I walked on the dirt road of emails-only and watched all the people in the wagons made of Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn and others pass me by.

I thought it was just too much work to squeeze in with all those people, and it just seemed so intricate trying to decide which wagon would fit best. The Twitter, Facebook, or Pinterest wagons? So many choices (or wagons... a.k.a. social media venues) to navigate.

But you know what? Once I rode some of the wagons, I didn't miss my little dirt road anymore. I do not watch television (no, you don't need to pat me on the back; I've already done it!). Instead of the t.v. I prefer to get my news from the internet. This way I get to pick and choose what I want, when I want it. Don't get me wrong, I still like the comic sections, word games, and lifestyle sections of Sunday newspapers. Anyway, I digress. Well, while not being a television viewer, I am kept abreast of what's going on (what's trending) via social media.

 It (social media/networking) is very much apart of how we exist today. Don't be shy, give social media a try. Be sure to protect your identity and personal information if that is what is stopping you.
For the most part it's all pretty safe. You get to decide what you will or will not share with the public. You can maintain discretion via your privacy settings.

For a better quality of life, please keep up with the world around you. Stay connected and know what resources are available to you. God bless technology and let all the users say amen.

Best wishes for our (yours and mine) optimal health and wellness,
Kaja Green-Tovar

Happy Marvelous Month of March

Greetings Dear Readers!

Thanks for stopping by. So we are in the third month of this year, yet it seems like the New Year's holiday was only several weeks ago! The year is going by fast and I'm just noticing.

I figure I am noticing now because this evening I slowed down and had time to reflect. It feels good to be in a calm and tranquil state of mind. I am like this most of the time but I am also quite active, too. This 'down' time is a really 'good' time for me.

I hope you, Dear Reader, allow yourself some time to relax. It is fantastic when you accomplish your goals and complete your tasks! It is also wonderful to spend time counting your blessings and appreciating all that you have been able to accomplish.

You are a wonderful, blessed spirit having a human experience. Do what you can while you can, but remember to relax long enough to keep your mind and body from going into over-drive.

Loving this spiritual journey through this earthly life!

Best wishes for our (yours and mine) optimal health and wellness!
Kaja Green-Tovar

Feel Better Now!

Greetings Fellow Life Enthusiasts!

I am feeling AMAZING! I just danced to a fun song I like. Moving my body to the upbeat tunes helped in releasing endorphins, the feel good hormones.

In addition to watching what I eat to prevent sluggishness and feelings of fatigue, exercising in the form of dancing elevated my feelings of being well.

Want to feel better now? Of course you do!

Get up and move! If you have kids, put on a kids song and dance around the house. Dance with your significant other, friends, or even alone - as us single people sometimes do! Whether you're dancing alone or with someone, just get up and move.

Okay, stop reading this and go dance. Go! Have fun!

Best wishes for our (yours and mine) optimal health and wellness,
Kaja Green-Tovar

P.S. I think my fingers are dancing so pardon any typos! :-)

Attract The Ability To Improve How You Look And Feel

Greetings Dear Readers!

Happy Thursday to you! I want to share how to attract improvement in how you look and feel.

For those who say that I am lucky to have my 103 pounds figure at 5'0'' and it's due to genetics, they are mistaken. I do have good genetics, BUT I once gained 30 pounds on my petite frame. By the way, I am continuously improving as well, after all I am in the process of attracting a 4 pounds weight loss!

My 30 pounds weight gain happened when I was about 24 years old and stationed in Alaska (I'm a USAF veteran). Dear Reader, I went up several sizes. By the time I got to the 5th size up from my normal size, I decided to improve how I looked and felt. I attracted improvement in body and how I felt. This is how I did it:

I begin to spend time working out again up to 5 days a week. I did not spend hours upon hours exercising, but I made it a point to be active on a consistent basis. I also reduced the amount of food I ate as well as selected foods with higher nutritional value.

It has been over 12 years since I gained and loss the weight, and I have not relapsed! I avoided a relapse in my weight gain experience because I made lifestyle changes instead of fad-dieting or exercising only when I felt I needed it. Again, I made it a lifestyle.

This morning I've already had my breakfast (old-fashioned oats with one chopped apple), vitamins, orange juice, and a cup of coffee. After this post I will spend at least 30 minutes exercising prior to hitting the shower and going about my day. These actions are attracting continued physical maintenance of my body and improvement in how I feel.

You CAN attract improvement in how you look and feel.

Best wishes for our (yours and mine) optimal health and wellness,
Kaja Green-Tovar

You Are A Human Being; Not A Garbage Disposal

After having lunch at a restaurant this afternoon, I was closing out my ticket when the server asked, "Don't you want to take that (left-over food) with you? After all," she continued, "you paid for it."

I smiled and politely declined.

Her concern was nice, but... we should not feel that we have to eat everything on our plates just because it's there. We are human beings, not garbage disposals. I know, waste not - want not. I agree - to a certain extent.

We should not deliberately be wasteful, but the portion sizes served in that particular restaurant was more than I needed. I ate enough to fuel my body and left the rest. Sure, I could have saved the rest for later but I knew that I was not going to have any more of that particular meal.

We must not give in to storing extra calories on our skeletal frame. Only consume what is needed to fuel the body and function at an optimal level.

I feel more concerned about storing too many calories on the only body vehicle provided for my soul in this lifetime, than leaving food on a plate because excessive serving sizes. 

Remember: "Eat to live, not live to eat."

Best wishes for our (yours and mine) optimal health and wellness,
Kaja Green-Tovar

Inspiration to SMILE :-)

Greetings Dear Readers (Life Enthusiasts!)

Today I 'almost' felt tired. Everyone feels tired every now and then but I did not want to feel tired because I had things to do. To respond to my 'almost' feeling of being tired, I smiled. Yes, I smiled.

And guess what happened! In less than ninety seconds, I felt rejuvenated. I decided to keep smiling and the feeling of being refreshed continued as I kept smiling.

Smile. Now. Then KEEP ON SMILING. Smiling turns your frown upside down. So do it. Do it now. Smile!

Best wishes for our (yours and mine) optimal health and wellness,
Kaja Green-Tovar

p.s. I'm smiling :-) 

Sleep In Peace, Wake in Joy

Salutations Dear Reader!

What a beautiful morning it is as I sit and look at the trees outside my bedroom window. I had a very peaceful sleep, as I do most nights.

When we do what we can throughout the day and willfully accept that some things will be left for another time, we sleep peacefully.

Rest is a vital component for a better quality of life. It would be a challenge to wake up, ready to go, if your sleep was not sweet and restful.

If you have a challenge with sleeping well on a frequent basis, start writing what you're thinking about & know that whatever concerns you have will be dealt with at the appropriate time. Think of what you are grateful for as you fall asleep. Continue to take deep breaths as you allow your body to gently relax.

To wake in joy is to be appreciative for a new day! Have excitement and enthusiasm for every moment. Your life is so special and wonderful! 

As I watered my plants this morning, I thanked the heavens for the exchange of oxygen between plants and mammals. Whether you live alone or with someone, most likely there is a family member, close acquaintance, or perhaps a significant other in your life. Be grateful for having someone to share your life's journey. Thank the Universe for manifesting such wonderful beings.

Sleep in peace. Wake in Joy!

Best wishes for an optimally beautiful day!
Kaja Green-Tovar

Three Things A Person Needs For A Great Day!

Greetings!

Below are three things needed for a GREAT day!

1) Nourishment to sustain life
Unless you have decided to fast from food, adequate fuel in the form of healthy foods is required for you to maintain an optimal level of energy as you go about your day. Be sure to get plenty of H2O as well!

If you are a busy parent, student, or worker check out the following links for breakfast, lunch, or dinner ideas:

Breakfast - http://www.kajafitness.com/5_Breakfast_and_3_Meal_Ideas_from_Kaja_.html

Lunch/Dinner - http://www.kajafitness.com/5-lunch-dinner-meals-and-3-snack-ideas-from-kaja.html


***By the way, I know you already have air or you would not be here visiting with me. :)


2. Security/Safety
You need to know that your basic needs are consistently being met. Wherever you are now is a blessing because you are still here. As long as you have life, you can grow as a human being. All your needs will continuously be met and supplied in proportions to your belief and expectations.

Knowing that you are safe in the essence of the Universal Spirit (or whatever name you choose for the one Deity over all) allows you to feel a sense of peace as you endeavor to have a better quality of life.

3. Purpose
Deciding why you want to pursue certain goals, or complete particular tasks, will help you stay motivated throughout the day.

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Feeling secure that all of your needs are being met while knowing it safe for you to feel free to live a purposeful life, will result in you having a GREAT day!

Feel free to share whatever else helps you have great day.

Best wishes for our (yours and mine) optimal health and wellness!
Kaja Green-Tovar

Excited About Writing This Morning

Greetings Dear Reader!

I am so excited this morning. So many good things are happening. First of all, I feel amazingly calm and forward-looking today. As some of you know, my book The Musings of a Commitment Phobic Woman is available on Amazon.com:

http://www.amazon.com/Musings-Commitment-phobic-Woman-Meeting-Initial/dp/1495393577

I am working on the second book for this story and incorporating more humor and wit! This morning just feels right. Most mornings do! However, I am extra elated because I am getting much writing accomplished. I started a draft on a non-fiction book to address what is happening with our youth as I am a parent of a wonderful adolescent young adult. More about the book will be provided over the next few days!

Dear Reader, when we do work that we love it makes for a better quality of life! I am so grateful to have self-published two books so far (one non-fiction and one fiction). I guess it's the Gemini in me that allows me to write both genres!

For me, writing nonfiction is much easier and quicker than writing fiction (although I enjoy both!). With either genre, when you are passionate about your topic, the process of putting words to paper (or computer screen) is smooth. Of course, if things aren't so smooth, we can pinpoint why and determine how to make it better for a smoother next time.

Have a terrific Thursday!

Best wishes for our (yours and mine) optimal health and wellness!
Kaja Green-Tovar

Sharing Treasure - Divorce Parents Sharing The Life Of Adult Offspring

This weekend I am in Mississippi visiting my darling, magnificent treasure, and the man from my past is here too. We, the man from my past I, met up and took the drive to Mississippi together since he had to come through the state I was in. The man from the past and I share a most marvelous treasure.

We sometimes scheme and vie for ways to make this treasure more our own, although the treasure should not be disputed for as being more his or more mine. This weekend I find myself with an invisible muzzle over my mouth because I need to make sure I do not upset or tamper with the sacredness, the wholesomeness, of our shared treasure.

As I intricately tango with the man from my past in an effort to keep our treasure stable and well, I hope the dance steps stay smooth and the experience result in my personal growth. My gratitude for the blessing of such a beautiful divine treasure aids me in the dance.

For the love of my beautiful, magnificent, divine treasure I humble myself and reject engaging in tit-for-tat. I resist telling the man from my past how I am the one who did the most physical caring and nurturing of the treasure. This is not to take away how well he has contributed to the upkeep and development of our treasure. I simply feel entitled to speak the truth and the truth is that I sustained the treasure inside of my body for nine months then providing nurturing from my very bosoms. I did it all with love, joy, and much gratitude for the gift of the treasure being part of my life experience.

How is your treasure (your offspring) shared with the person (former spouse - male or female) from your past?

Today I shared this for all divorced parents working together as best you can to nurture your treasure.

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Best wishes for our optimal health and wellness,
Kaja Green-Tovar

Passage Written by the Late Dr. Ernest Holmes

Usually, I write from my experiences or feel a need to share a personal story or something going on in the world.

This evening I wanted to share a written passage by the Late Dr. Ernest Holmes:

"Peace comes from the absence of fear, from a consciousness of trust, from a deep, underlying faith in the absolute goodness and mercy, the final integrity of the universe in which we live, and of every cause to which we give our thought, our time, and our attention. If we would have peace outwardly, we must first realize peace inwardly. Peace is greatly to be desired; nations at war with each other destroy themselves finally." -Dr. Ernest Holmes

Best wishes for our optimal health and wellness,
Kaja Green-Tovar

P.S. The image is my personal photo of the Payette River in Boise, Idaho. This photo reminds me of the peace and beauty that exist in nature.