Is Someone Upset With You? Try These Four Tips Instead Of Worrying!

Greetings Dear Reader,

Remember: from May 16-31, 2014, I am posting suggestions and tips for diminishing or doing away with worrying.

For today, let's discuss how to stop worrying about someone being upset with you. First of all, we must acknowledge that regardless of why someone is upset with us, the only thing we can truly control is OUR RESPONSE to the other person or situation.

**Be like the ducks! Let the water roll off our backs!

Instead of worrying about someone being upset with you, try the following:

1) Respect the other person's difference of opinion or point of view. If the disagreement gets a bit heated, be dignified and refrain from name-calling or insults.  As long as you control how you express yourself, you will not have to worry about adding more reasons for anyone to be upset with you.


2) Accept that YOU have a choice to engage or disengage in communicating. You can choose to disengage if someone is irate or making nasty remarks . You can decide to distance yourself physically to stay safe or prevent a situation from escalating. Whether you engage or disengage, the person might still be upset. Spend time focusing on how to best move forward instead of worrying.

3) If someone is upset with you, it's okay to talk about the situation with someone you trust to help you cope or calm down. Stick to the facts of the situation without trying to get anyone to take your side. If possible, don't even include the person's name when talking about the situation. This way you get to air your concerns instead of worrying about them!

4) Listen to the person who is upset with you without trying to change their mind or convince them that they are wrong. Sometimes allowing another person to talk until they run out of things to say, can help them release pent up frustrations. Listening to the person who is upset helps you because no matter the outcome, you don't have to worry about whether you gave listening a try. Of course, if they are being disrespectful or threatening, just see number two above.

I hope the above tips help you to not worry so much when someone gets upset with you. Feel free to leave a comment and share tips on how to deal with someone who is upset with you.

Best of the best wishes for our (yours and mine) optimal health and wellness! -Kaja Green-Tovar